Why Men Miss Out On Matches (+How to Fix)
TL;DR
If you’re not getting dates on apps in Toronto, it’s probably your photos, bio, or messaging. Let’s fix that 🔧
📸 Use clear, recent photos—one headshot, one full body, one social, and one lifestyle shot. Hiring a dating app photographer helps!
🧠 Your bio should sound like you. Be specific and skip the clichés.
💬 Don’t say “hey.” Start convos with something personal and short.
🎯 A match isn’t a win—follow up fast and suggest something casual if it’s going well.
Let’s Get Into It
Dating apps in Toronto can feel like a full-time job 💼—especially if you’re a guy. You’re swiping like it owes you rent 💸, barely getting matches, and the ones you do match with? Crickets. 🦗 Whether you’re on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, or even Grindr, matching can be hard. Ok we lied, it’s not that hard to match on Grindr.
Anyway, if you’re frustrated with your match rates, you’re not alone. The silver lining? Most guys are making the same handful of mistakes. Here’s how to stop blending in like wallpaper and actually start booking dates 🗓️.
Fix Your Photos
Your pics are your resume—and right now, yours might be screaming “don’t hire me” 🧟♂️. Here’s the breakdown:
✅ What to include:
📷 Headshot: Natural light, taken by someone else. No car selfies. No filters.
🏄♂️ Lifestyle: Doing something—kayaking, biking, brunching… just don’t be boring.
🎉 Social pic: One with friends where you are easy to spot. Show you’re a real-life human.
🧍♂️ Full body: No gym mirror thirst traps. Look casual, comfortable, clothed.
🧼 Clean background: No dirty laundry or evidence of a frat house past.
🚫 What to skip:
👯♂️ Group pics where it’s a game of “Guess Who?” (or find Waldo if you get the reference!)
💪 Shirtless flexes—unless you’re auditioning for Love Island and confident as hell.
🤳 Multiple selfies.
📅 Pics older than your last haircut. Ok, not really, but you get the point—recent and relevant!
Write a Bio That Doesn’t Make Eyes Roll 🙄
Most bios read like a LinkedIn intro or a cry for help. Yours shouldn’t.
✅ Try this:
🗣️ Write how you talk. Confident. Chill. Specific. Something like:
“6’1” because apparently that matters. Into espresso, pickup basketball, and pretending I know what to order at Izakayas.”
“Moved from Montreal for work. Into vintage stores, Saturday morning hikes, and overpriced croissants.”
🚫 Avoid:
🔍 Grocery lists of traits you’re looking for.
🤷 “Ask me anything.” Bro. No one is.
📄 Generic stuff like “Work hard, play hard.” (Yawn, A woman would rather go to bed with her electric eggplant 🍆)
If your bio could describe 87% of Bay Street, rewrite it.
Your First Message Can’t Just Be ‘Hey’ 💤
Even with fire pics and a solid bio, if your first message sucks—you’re toast, bruh 🍞.
✅ Do this:
👀 Reference her profile or photos. Show you read something.
🍜 Ask something casual with direction: “What’s your go-to dumpling spot?”
📬 Be short, direct, human. You’re not writing a novel.
🚫 Don’t:
💐 Lead with “You’re so beautiful” – 1,000 guys beat you to it.
👀 Jump straight to “Drinks tonight?” after one word.
📚 Send paragraphs. You’re not applying to Harvard.
Reality Check 🧢
Most guys get 1–2 matches per 100 swipes. Unless you’re a Giga-Chad™️, then it’s 100 matches per blink 🤪
Women usually won’t message first. That’s your job, Captain Initiative 🫡
Looks matter, but presentation matters more. A clean, put-together profile beats “hot but half-assed” any day.
Want a Date? Here’s What to Actually Do
📱 Stop swiping mindlessly. Match with intent.
✉️ Follow up quickly. 2–3 solid messages can get you there.
☕ If the vibe’s good, make a casual plan: “Want to grab coffee at Boxcar this weekend?”
No overthinking. No “hey.” No banking on your 2008 beach photo from when you had abs, to do all the heavy lifting.
Bottom line
If you’re in Toronto and getting ghosted by the algorithm, it’s not fate—it’s fixable.
📸 Upgrade your photos
📝 Rewrite your bio
💬 Message like a person
🎯 And stop self-sabotaging.
Go get ’em, Romeo… just don’t lead with “u up?” at 3 a.m. 😬
